What was I thinking?! I left a comment on a public post — a post made by NPR — on FB. And now I am renewed in my understanding of why I never do that!
Several years ago, because of my job, I locked down my social media: mostly anonymous on Twitter, just about entirely PG on Instagram, all the don’t find me if I don’t already know you security measures on FB. It doesn’t create an echo chamber exactly because I’ve left some problematic characters in there, but it does mean I’m not out in the general fray every minute of the day.
Why on earth I would choose The Slap to be the thing I’d comment on in such a crazed forum as the open comments on an FB post? Obviously, I am nuts. Just fully nuts.
I got off easy, though, I’m sure. A whole convoy of people telling me I’m stupid and clueless and reaching and “making everything about race” and defending violence and embarrassing myself. No hate speech, no out and out ugliness.
One man accused me of infantilizing people with the way I responded to comments. When I get all preachy-teachy in here, do you, my readers, feel infantilized? If that’s real, I want to do something about it.
Was I a little snippy with some folks? Yes, I definitely was. Mostly with white people who couldn’t seem to accept that I might think or feel something different from them, who basically told me that if they didn’t see it, it hadn’t happened. I don’t really have time for that kind of nonsense, and I said so. I was polite about it, but clear.
Mostly, it’s really interesting for me to see how willfully people will not hear you — or in this case, not read what you’ve written. People would read my comments and then accuse me of saying something else entirely. I would say, “I’m not talking about alopecia,” and people would come back at me with all kinds of information about alopecia, telling me that if I understood it, I’d know it had nothing to do with race. Um … ?
Oy. Lesson learned. I’ll be keeping my thoughts … well, not to myself (as if!), but keeping them out of the comments sections!
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